In a recent podcast episode, we peeled back the curtain on a very special birthday ritual we have in our family. It’s something that not only marks birthdays but also fosters deep connections and appreciation within our family. I’m excited to share this with you, especially since we’ve just celebrated our boys’ birthdays!

The Essence of Our Birthday Ritual … More Than Cake

In our family, birthdays aren’t just about presents and cake. They’re about reflection, recognition, and empowerment. During birthdays, we gather around the dinner table (no matter who’s joining us) and engage in a heartfelt tradition. Each of us takes turns to speak out loud what we see in the birthday boy or girl, what we’re proud of, and what traits we want to encourage in them. It’s a moment of sincere acknowledgment and encouragement.

We don’t just do this birthday ritual with our kids either, if its extended family or chosen family we are celebrating, we share exactly the same.

Why This Ritual Matters

This ritual is not just a mere ceremony; it’s a tool that helps our children wake up to their strengths and potential and see what we see in them. Unlike the common scene where kids eagerly ask, “What’s my present?” our kids look forward to these affirming conversations. It’s a practice that instills values of gratitude, self-awareness, and family bonding.

What is also special, is it teaches the other kids and family at the table, how to give genuine compliments to someone they care about, a skill that hasn’t been mastered enough people in the world.

An Evening of Empowerment

Just this week, we wrapped up a birthday dinner where we practiced this birthday ritual. It was amazing to hear each family member, including the kids, share favourite memories and admirable traits of the birthday boy. For example, our son was praised for his perseverance, especially remembered through a mountain biking experience. Such moments don’t just boost confidence; they create lasting memories.

The Impact on Our Kids

The effect of this birthday ritual is profound. Our kids feel appreciated and understood. They also learn the importance of acknowledging the good in others. For instance, one of our boys shared how it felt great to be recognized for becoming more mature and helpful. These aren’t just words; they are affirmations that shape their self-image.

Encouraging Other Families

In sharing this with you, our hope is that it might inspire you to incorporate something similar into your family’s birthday celebrations. It’s a simple yet powerful way to deepen family bonds and empower your children.

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